AS I SEE IT

Happy Marriage
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As I sit and muse; many thoughts twist their way through my mind with only a few finding lodging for more than a moment.

Most of those reflections that do remain are not taken seriously enough to spend time necessary for reaching any conclusion about them. This in part is because at my age many things don't matter any more.

Some things that catch my attention are things that seem a little odd.

There is a verse of scripture in Exodus 21:9-10 But if the slave's owner arranges for her (a slave) to marry his son, he may no longer treat her as a slave but as a daughter and If a man who has married a slave wife takes another wife for himself, he must not neglect the rights of the first wife to food, clothing, and sexual intimacy.

Except for the sexual intimacy part it sounds like alimony. Of all people the Christian should be out front as good examples in husband and wife relations for it is there where many problems in Christian marriages start.

The church at Corinth wrote Paul about the husband and wife relationship and he responded by saying in;

1Corinthians 7:1-5 Now, to deal with the matters you wrote about. A man does well not to marry. But because there is so much immorality, every man should have his own wife, and every woman should have her own husband.

A man should fulfill his duty as a husband, and a woman should fulfill her duty as a wife, and each should satisfy the other's needs. A wife is not the master of her own body, but her husband is; in the same way a husband is not the master of his own body, but his wife is.

Do not deny yourselves to each other, unless you first agree to do so for a while in order to spend your time in prayer; but then resume normal marital relations. In this way you will be kept from giving in to Satan's temptation because of your lack of self-control.

There are other scriptures that deal with marriage duties but these deal with necessary intimacy issues. I like the way Paul puts it for he describes the ideal marriage we all wish to have. Along with daily obligations there are other components that will make this work.

Due to the fact men can be brutes, often demanding and unreasonable (bless their dear hearts) they must take to heart other words of wisdom such as;

Ephesians 5:28 Men ought to love their wives just as they love their own bodies. A man who loves his wife loves himself.

1Peter 3:7 In the same way you husbands must live with your wives with the proper understanding that they are more delicate than you. Treat them with respect, because they also will receive, together with you, God's gift of life. Do this so that nothing will interfere with your prayers.

Colossians 3:18-19 Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, for that is what you should do as Christians. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.

Hebrews 13:4 Honor your marriage; keep it pure by remaining true to your wife in every way.


This is part of what Jesus meant when He said "This is the way walk ye in it".

Some of the best advice given on a happy marriage can be found in Proverbs chapter five at least for the man's side of marriage.

Proverbs 5:15, 18 Be faithful to your own wife and give your love to her alone. So be happy with your wife and find your joy with the woman you married

Marriage is GOD'S plan, and it is a good plan, if you follow the directions.

This post is linked with Jennifer at: God-Bumps and God-Incidences
Also Linking up with Tracy at Winsome Wednesday